Like several of the women featured on Women Making Moves, Twanna and I connected via Twitter, the social networking site that I've encouraged my readers to join. We officially met during a lunch Tweetup, a meet-up of twitter people. Twanna is warm, open (she discusses her sex-life via her blog), creative and overall a great person. If I haven't gushed over Twanna enough for your liking, read below for my interview with the one and only Funky Brown Chick!
A: I moved in NYC in early 2005. I started my website, Funky Brown Chick, after hitting really tough times in the city. Nothing seemed to be working out. I had a job I hated. I was having problems making new friends. The typical "I'm new in town" stuff. I'd started blogs before and I wanted something new that would last -- something permanent. I chose the name "Funky Brown Chick" because it totally describes me. I'm quirky. No matter what you call my race/ethnicity, I'm always going to have brown skin. And, I can be somewhat femme-y, girly, chicky. I'm really honest about my dating experiences and my sex life on my site. I love it when people find things there that resonate with them. I'm got more than 7,000 user comments and I've written hundreds of blog posts. At the moment, the site has higher traffic than many smaller women's magazines' monthly circulation.
Q: Have you always had the desire to write about sex, dating and relationships?
A: Absolutely. I wouldn't say I knew I'd be doing EXACTLY what I'm doing now, but I've always been a writer and I've always been charmed by human relationships. I've kept a written journal since I was 14 years old. I wrote articles for my high school newspaper and I was one of the students on the yearbook staff. In undergrad, I interviewed a never-married, female minister about her sex and dating life and gave a presentation about sex and religion. I have a B.S. and M.A. in Sociology because I'm absolutely fascinated and turned on about understanding the way people relate to each other. I wrote a blog dating column for Nerve magazine. I've written about sex and dating topics for Huffington Post, Fast Company, the website for Lifetime Television for Women and other publications. Newspapers, magazines and websites on both coasts have written about my site.
Q: What's your fashion style?
A: I rarely wear pants because I can't find many that fit well. I have a tiny waist, wider hips and really long legs. So, I'm almost always in skirts and heels.
Q: Now that Sex in the City is no longer on the air, what show has the best fashion trends?
A: I know it's cool to hate on Sex and the City, but I actually thought it was a good show. It brought discussions about sex and relationships to television in a really entertaining way. I think it's funny when people say, "You're just like Carrie Bradshaw." I don't think my life is like Sex and the City. The show was entertainment; that's all. About fashion, I don't really dress by fashion trends. I wear what suits me. Generally speaking, I think people look best when they wear clothes that compliment their personality and body type. Don't be a fashion follower! Be a fashion leader!
Q: What was your first job?
A: I was a "paper girl." I delivered newspapers to my neighborhood's subscribers at the crack of dawn when I was 15 years-old. My tie with media goes way back. When I was really young, I actually took a tour of my hometown's newspaper offices, The Pantagraph, to meet journalists and see how newspapers are made.
Q: What book(s) are you currently reading?
A: Too many to count. I'm reading one called "Late Bloomer" or something like that. I like it because it's about a woman who found her dating stride later in life and only after several horrible dates and failed relationships. One guy dumped her only a week or so after announcing (at a family wedding) he was going to marry her. Painful. I'm also reading Michael Kimmel's "Guyland." Good stuff. I've been reading "Love in the Time of Cholera" off and on for like a year now. I get started, but then I get pulled into reading something else.
Q: What's your favorite movie and why?
A: I'm a film nut! I tend to favorite New York directors like Spike Lee and Martin Scorsese more than the LA filmmakers because I like this city more. I think I usually have a soft spot for movies about neurotic 30-something women really fucked up love lives because, ahem, I can relate. In any case, I have pretty broad tastes. My favorite German film is "Run Lola Run." I loved "Memento." I just finished watching "Puccini for Beginners." "2 Days in Paris" and "Broken English" rock. "Something New" was awesome, but I didn't like "Lakeview Terrace." "Moulin Rouge" was great.
Q: What makes you a Woman Making Moves?
A: I go after what I want. You'll rarely, if ever, hear me say the words, "I wish I could ___." If I want to do something, I do it.
Q: Do you have any advice for women wanting to make their own moves?
A: BE YOURSELF. Decide what you want to make moves toward it. Don't let others decide that for you. It's always better to be the best YOU you can be than a knockoff of someone else. I can't stress this enough. Too often, women fall into common traps, they don't know who they are or they try to be someone else. At it's core, I think that signals a lack of self esteem -- something women struggle with more often (at least openly) than men. So, if I were to give women advice about making moves, I would say that, be yourself. Don't let me define what moves you should make. Make your own. Women, start making your Moves today!